Instead of Preparing our Children for the Marriage we prepare them for the Wedding…
A wedding is not a marriage. A wedding is only the beginning of an undertaking that may or may not, someday, develop into a marriage. What the couple have on their wedding day is not the key to a beautiful garden, but just a vacant lot and a few gardening tools. (David and Vera Mace)
There is so much of intent and purpose in organizing the wedding. This is indeed acceptable. Of course it is a joyous occasion; family, friends and neighbours all lend in their support. The atmosphere at home in frenzied and joyous. There is this anticipation of joy. The wedding itself makes for great conversation. However, not long afterwards in many instances the marriage is no more. Why? How can this be possible? What has gone wrong? Indeed instead of preparing our children for the marriage we have prepared them for the wedding.
The question is how can parents prepare the children for marriage. Parents:
Parents should develop in the children the following qualities/attributes/skills: