Over the years as a marriage counsellor I have come across a wide range of issues. There is a desire to find solutions jointly. I have seen homes transform themselves from a site of contestation to a sanctuary. Of course in extreme cases where every effort has been expended and no stone left unturned divorce may be the only solution. Today, however, divorces are a common phenomenon.

Yes, what can be done to ensure harmony in our homes?

1. Make your spouse your priority.
2. Pray, pray, pray.
3. Get to know your spouse.
4. Do things together.
5. Express your love.
6. Demonstrate your love.
7. Be authentic.
8. Do not allow external factors impinging on your relationship.
9. Have me time.
10. Have realistic expectations.
11. Do not sweep issues under the carpet.
12. Have a daily routine that solidifies your relationship.
13. Be appreciative.
14. Be open about money matters.
15. Take care of your appearance.
16. Have joint goals.
17. Have personal goals.
18. Have great friends.
19. Use purring words and not snarling words.
20. Know when to speak and when to be quiet.
21. Be passionate and intimate.
22. Avoid pettiness.
23. Be humorous. Laughter lubricates life.
24. Praise in public and chastise in private.
25. Even if you disagree, do not become disagreeable.
26. Grow together.
27. Be forgiving.
28. Be supportive of each other.
29. Be of service to others.
30. Treat each other with respect.
31. Do not become obsessed with social -media.
32. Read, read and read.
33. Do not dwell on the mistakes of the past.
34. Get to know your Creator.
35. Get to know your Prophet (PBUH).